During my days as a bulimic I had a flaw (amongst many others) and this is the main one. I let myself be an option to others. Last night my ex boyfriend spoke to me, as he often does as we have remained friends, about his girlfriend and all the things wrong about their relationship. I used to listen, but the broken record became tiresome and I finally said enough! In his complaints he throws in that he still loves me and he has to make a choice. I made it clear finally that in his choice I am not one of them as he continually speaks to (he is wondering if he should leave her and come back to me). NOT AN OPTION! May have been at one time, but not anymore. I deserve to be a number one choice, not an option, not a settlement, not a consolation prize! Not a choice because his child loves me and wants me with him. Not a choice because others tell him what is best. Anyone who has to rely on other people’s opinion other than having their own is bad news.
So yes, get out of the equation. Makes their choices and decisions easier, and your life simpler and happier!