A Wonderful Facebook Share – Not Mine, But Have To Post

I showed this post to a male friend of mine – just the picture – and I asked “what do you think about this lady?”  His answer is why he is my friend.  He said “she has a little bit of that, but that’s what a woman should have.  She’s really pretty.”  And I knew he meant it.  Here is the post:
“A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was “This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?”The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way: beautiful“Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.

They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia.
They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cd’s. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.Mermaids do not exist.But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish?
They would have no sex life and could not bear children.
Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.
And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?

Without a doubt, I’d rather be a whale.

At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.

We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn’t enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.
We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated.
Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself: “How amazing am I ?! ”
Do share if you care.

Don’t forget to share it! 🙂

— with Kimberly Snyder, Subindra Tamang, Mary Grace Trinidad-Alda and 34 others.”

Interesting Thought – Can Super Brain Help With Eating Disorders?

I was watching a show the other day with Dr. Rudolph Tanzi speaking about the Super Brain.  I was quite intrigued.  No, I am not sponsoring his work, so if you are interested, google it.  But it was amazing how he spoke about bringing the three parts of the brain together.  I did take some notes during his presentation (he co-authored his book withSuper Brain Deepak Chopra) and I liked the line “Cells that are wired together, fire together”.  He spoke to when you are angry to think of something that made you happy in life and the endorphins will kick in and change your attitude.  He spoke to “STOP” “S= Stop, T=Take three deep breathes and smile, O= Observe what is happening and P=Proceed with awareness and kindness.”  Very interesting.  The other lines I wrote down that made me think were when he was speaking about what you should do every day to change your mind set.  They were “What am I feeling right now?” and “Is that feeling good for me?” followed by thinking often of what is your meaning in life.

The book is called “Super Brain”.  Interesting concept.

Men Have Eating Disorders Too!

I blogged before the Furious Pete story about men and eating disorders, but still this remains so secondary to the female struggle, which is absurd.  The statistics that they publish are questionable, as men are less likely to admit to having an eating disorder or can hide it better because it is not perceived as likely that this might be the case.  I manorexiamentioned in a comment on the Furious Pete post that I had two male friends that admitted to me having bulimia.  I suppose because I confided in them they did me.  They were two entirely different people.  The first one was a friend in college who just couldn’t control his eating and as he gained weight he had the exact same feelings as a woman – that he was becoming less and less attractive.  Obviously in the 1980’s the whole eating disorder information became rampid, so he decided he would try bulimia.  I was amazed when I found out because, like so many others, I had a stereotypical view of the disease.

The other friend did it for different reasons.  He was my workout coach and very well built – solid muscle.  Wonderful man, very sensitive though.  And for him the bulimia was that he wanted to retain his sculpted body all the while eating the foods he enjoyed.  Again I was surprised.  We hear of ballerina’s being anorexic or bulimic, but we don’t equate a weight lifter in the same vain.

Here are articles worth reading to find out the differences of why a woman would consider an eating disorder versus a male.

The Silent Victims: More Men Have Eating Disorders Than Ever Before

The Young Men Dying To Stay Thin

Furious Pete – An Inspiring Story of a Male Anorexic

A couple of weeks ago I watched this documentary about Furious Pete.  It was such a wonderful story of a young boy who, through the turmoil around him, became an anorexic.  He ended up in the hospital near death.  We don’t hear much about the male side of the disease, and it’s refreshing that this young man has been open about it.  He is now a champion in eating contests, would you believe!  I have added a bit of his intro, and a link for you to follow if you are interested in knowing more.

He is so sweet too.  He is a proud Canadian, and it’s lovely to see.  He is such a wonderful young man.  I’m so glad he found his way out.  His mother said she doesn’t Furious Peteunderstand this new life he has, but she said she prefers it to the other one – the one of an anorexic.

You can join his site, follow him on Twitter, FB and several other social networks.

Hope you enjoy.

In the Winter of 2002 I was hospitalized with Anorexia at the Toronto Sick Kids Hospital. Many factors come to play as to why I ended up in the hospital.

In short, a year prior to my hospitalization everyone in my family had health issues, including me. I ended up using food as a form of control to forget about the negativity that was happening and the stress/pressure of getting into university. I landed up in the hospital at a weight of 120lbs and my heart not being able to keep up with me. Had I gone to the hospital a day later, I may not have been here today.

After leaving the hospital on my own account, clearly not ready yet, I struggled with gaining and liking life, but slowly but surely through the help of friends and internet forums like bodybuilding.com I was able to start gaining and getting a more positive outlook on life. As I began to eat normally and started seeing body composition changes, I began to have more confidence. I actually started to help others after a year or two with their problems, and people were referring to me as an inspiration.

Years of training made me smarter, stronger and I took my body to a state that I can finally say I am pleased with. I learned many lessons and made many mistakes along the way, but it has made me better inside and out today. Recently I picked up on CrossFit training and as a result I have never been stronger with everything I do.
Now for the ironic part of my story…the part that has made me one of the world greatest eaters today.” …. read more

Handwriting and Eating Disorders – The Letters As Words

How do your overall letters look like?  Are they close together, far apart?  Are the words close together or far apart?  Do certain letters run into the line below it?

I will expand on individual letters in the next blogs, but this one will be an overview.  Letters that are very close together and very narrow reflect a person who is internalized, keep to themselves, uncertain, does not like change, are generally self-conscious and not very good with crowds.  The smaller the letters, the greater this butterfly_handwritingcharacteristic.

If you letters are large and squished together, mostly what would fit in between lines of a lined paper, it means you are living in the present, with little regard for philosophy or physical activity.  This type of writing shows signs of immaturity, the lack of desire to want to grow up.  There is a tendency to try to avoid stressful situations.

If your letters have angular forms, although there are good traits that go along with this, such as strong willed and analytical, it also reflects anger, so the strong will can come across negatively if one is not in agreement with another’s opinion.  I do not have these, but I do know that in my state of anger, when I was bulimic, it was a trigger.  This is because, like many of us, I didn’t not want to lash out, so I hurt myself instead.  The typical self-castigation which is also very noticeable in a t-bar slashed downward, whether to the left or right.  This I have seen in my writing in the past.  I will be expanding on the “T” letter in further blogs.

A very controlled handwriting reflects just that – a need for control.  This may show up in those with eating disorders, as their ED is in fact a form of control when their surroundings seem out of control.  They choose their bodies as their main mechanism of “control”, however it ends up becoming that the ED controls them instead.

Someone who prints and script writes at the same time general show a tendency towards being artistic, but also show a conflict between emotions and objectivity.  Another trait of one with ED is a sense of confusion.

If the writing looks almost like a line with bumps – not clear formatted letters – this reflects some who is evasive, uncertain in general, and does not reveal much.  A person with ED can have this type of handwriting, particularly if afraid that one might be found out.

Large space between the words reflects someone a tendency to avoid relationships and isolate oneself.  I don’t think this needs much explanation when it comes to someone with ED.  I know I often isolated myself, choosing my bulimia over my friends.  It was safe and it didn’t judge me.  That sounds “ill minded”, but it was the way I thought.

Words that are retraced reflect someone who does not trust, holds things in, and is afraid of being found out.  They may use silence to keep anyone from knowing too much about them.

If letters from your words run down into the line below (such as a g or a y), there are two reasons for this.  One is that it reflects the physical nature of your being (the longer the lower loop, the greater the physical need, be it activity, sexual, or even work.  If it runs into the line below, that reflects confusion.

I can go on and on, but this gives you some examples of what to look for in your writing, or if you know someone who might have an ED, signs to look out for.

 

 

 

 

Handwriting and Eating Disorders – Signs In Writing

Let’s look at some signs that show up in your handwriting that can reflect your eating disorder.  I’ll start with the baseline.  Look carefully, when writing on a blank piece of paper.  Is your baseline very straight across?  This is a sign of perfectionism and artificial control, characteristics known too often be a part of someone with an ED.  Another sign is if within that line there are singular words that rise, and some that decline within the sentence.  This shows dissatisfaction and a tendency for rapid change in moods.

A rising baseline reflects optimism, however, again, if there are words that rise and decline, it means that there are frustrations that get in the way of this optimism.42-Handwriting_web

Conversely, a baseline that goes downward on the page shows dissatisfaction, depression, and pessimism.

A baseline that is like a wave, up and down, reflects imbalance of emotions in the flow of thoughts.

Slant is something that many of us with EDs wonder about if we look at our writing.  Some of us wonder why we may change at times from writing straight up, then writing to the right, and the slant to the right may differ.

If your writing in one sitting, so to speak, retains the same slant, this is not unusual.  It doesn’t mean the characteristics of your letters change, but the way your mind is “thinking” is.  If you write straight up during a business meeting, that means you are in a situation where you are thinking analytically and objectively.  If you, then, a couple of hours later decide to write in your diary or a letter to a friend and you are writing with a right slant, then it just means that you are allowing for a more emotional state.

The red light is if you are writing both styles within one paragraph, one sitting.  If you are writing extreme left, straight and then right, then more right, then straight, then left (you understand here I’m sure) within a paragraph, there are issues you have to deal with.  This would reflect a strong lenience towards quick mood transitions.  These moods can be perceived in may different contexts, depending on the other characteristics of your other letters and writing style.  It’s called stacking the traits.

I will leave you with this at this point, until my next post, which will be examples of some of my handwriting analysis of others, without their names noted, and then some, however, I will give out the name, because they have been on the internet, and they are famous.

Keep posted.

Does Your Handwriting Give Your Eating Disorder Away?

There are clues to handwriting that show the signs of eating disorders.  Handwriting Analysts can pick these out, as a doctor can pick out the enlarged muscles on the lower part of your back from constant bending and purging for bulimics.

Did you also know that changing your handwriting can change your life?  I know.  I have made the necessary changes in my own handwriting to make a difference, and I have, as have others, noticed these new positive character traits.HandwritingQueen

I am a grapho-therapist and handwriting analyst.  I can’t guarantee that it works for everyone – changing the letters which reflect your way of thinking, your frustrations, your obsessions, your dislikes.  But I know it did for me.  Looking back at my handwriting then and the one now and the difference in my thinking is indescribable.

If you want to take part in my study to see if this works for others, and you are suffering from an eating disorder, I invite you to send me your handwriting to bullimiaddict@gmail.com.  It is all highly confidential, and I will respond with a brief result, explanation of the traits and suggestion of changing certain letter forms to see if it works for you.

Understand this is not easy.  It took me six months to relearn my writing.  But it also changed me.  Again it is NOT a guarantee that it works.  All I know it did for me.

Handwriting analysis, by the way, is not some clairvoyant psychic phenomena.  It is a science that has been studied much over the years.  It is, as Dr. Wilhelm Preyer stated almost 90 years ago, “writing is basically a neurological process.  To (make the pen) write, the brain must transmit messages through the nervous system to the muscles that guide the pen.  It is the coordination of the brain, the nerves and muscles that determine such basic writing characteristics as the pressure, smoothness of line, ink distribution, shape and spacing of letters and forth.”

The brief results are free conditional on agreeing to return the favor of letting me know six months later if the suggestions of changing the writing, and henceforth proceeding in doing so, have had an effect on you.

If you do decide to go ahead and send me your handwriting, please do so on a blank page with as many letters as you can and in cursive.  I don’t care how messy the writing is.  It has no impact on the outcome.  Also a signature, if willing, speaks volumes.  Again, all is held in the highest of confidentiality.  Content is also insignificant, as I rarely read the words, I’m more interested in the letters and the format.  There is also the option of sending a “real” letter.  I would provide you with my mailing address to do so.  It does increase the accuracy.  Otherwise, however, it can be scanned and emailed.

If you have any further questions, you know you can contact me.  Again it’s bullimiaddict@gmail.com.

To those who choose to do this, thank you in advance.